This was absolutely not how I imagined this mentorship experience ending. Before we get to the most obvious change in this academic year (AKA the unfortunate reason I can’t include a cute self-timer picture with my mentee to this post), let’s begin at the beginning.
I was fortunate enough to be given two incredible first-year mentees at the start of first-semester, although, by the end of Spring Semester, I only technically would have one—Jack! In the autumn, however, my two mentees were, not only Jack Curry, but, also, Kaitlyn Tribe. Jack is a biochemistry major from Dublin, Ohio, and Kaitlyn is a fellow Political Science major!
I had a blast first semester connecting with these two, trying new grub in Columbus and bonding over life experiences, dreams and aspirations, relationship drama, and academics. Unfortunately, as the year progressed, Kaitlyn found that ACES wasn’t quite the right fit for her. She was so kind in coming to me with these feelings and her ultimate decision to leave the program and, don’t worry, we’re still following each other on Instagram and she’s still my mentee, whether we’re in ACES or not. However, as my knowledge on her Ohio State journey is a bit incomplete as a result of this choice, I’ll mostly be focusing on my mentorship experience with Jack.
This year and throughout college, in general, I have found myself having, increasingly, more and more male friends with whom I’ve connected and related greatly! These similarities are often, initially, somewhat surprising, as I’d always had primarily female friends throughout high school, especially. Jack was no exception to this new trend of surprising friendships with seemingly different guys! We shared a great deal in common with regard to mental health, in particular. As I expressed in my interview with him for the second-semester, we’ve both had the opportunity to open up about our respective struggles with mental illness and, more importantly, addressing overcoming these struggles. Additionally, he’s a fellow foodie with a love for exploring cities through their best dishes. In general, I think that his experience of being highly influenced by his older brother and his more mature friends, as well as Jack being just about the same age as me, has allowed me to relate to him a lot.
That being said, there are plenty of differences between us, which made getting to know him all the more fun. For starters, Jack is a bit of a Columbus native, so I often found he was able to teach and show me more things around town than I could for him! Additionally, he is a thoroughly STEM boy, studying Biochemistry and looking to do research and internships in that realm. Another marked difference between us is his rather laissez-faire, calm demeanor, whereas I tend to be a very anxious over-planner in many regards. I very much admire his ability to not plan or worry too far ahead into the future, allowing him to make the most of every present moment. He also boxes, which is so cool! Definitely want to learn more from him there!
Watching Jack grow from first to second semester was a fantastic experience. He was already a very intelligent, emotionally competent and self aware person from the first time I’d had the opportunity to talk to him, but I saw so much evolution even from that initial point. As aforementioned, the most prevalent point of growth I saw in my mentee was in his journey tackling mental health. Further, I saw him go through the natural ups-and-downs of exploring interpersonal relationships in college and watched him consistently learning more about himself and making, sometimes hard, decisions in prioritizing his well-being. In serving as listening-ear throughout these experiences, I found myself growing a lot, as well—as both a mentor and a leader throughout the year.
My experience as a mentor for Jack definitely helped me understand the balance to be struck between being someone’s friend and being someone they can uniquely come for for any kind of more serious advice and guidance. I also learned a great bit about flexibility in mentorship and leadership. Even before the previously alluded to “big change” that is the global pandemic of COVID-19 impacting our mentorship experiences, I was quickly made aware of the need to give both Jack and myself grace in handling our chaotic lives and schedules. Communication was absolutely paramount to making sure an openness between us remained, no matter what either of us were going through. This was a the core of how I hoped to have helped my mentee in the areas of mentoring, socialization, and orientation: establishing a mutual understanding that I was always someone he could turn to when he needed anything, no matter how busy either of us got or, in this present instance in particular, if I could not meet with him physically. My expertise as far as mentorship seems to have been in the realms of mental health, study abroad, research, working with faculty, getting involved on campus, and campus life, in general.
Being a mentor has been rather addicting; with my experience being an ACES mentor, I find myself reaching for any and all mentoring opportunities in all other aspects of my professional and personal life. Having such a role requires more introspection than one may initially imagine; wanting someone to look to you as a mentor naturally makes you want to be someone from whom you would value getting advice, guidance, and mentorship. There are countless benefits I can see in partaking in such a mentorship program. Mentorship is and always will be one of my greatest passions, as I have a deep love for applying personal experience and introspection to strengthening meaningful connections with others. I love learning just as much from a mentee as they love for me, as I also love being the mentee in a relationship. The experience of learning from another person is humbling, and being able to teach or guide others is something that has bolstered my own confidence in a way I could have never imagined! Mentorship reaffirms to me that my experiences and perspectives and thoughts have an intrinsic value in the sense that they can improve the life and experiences of someone else. Of course, in this mentorship experience in particular, the biggest benefit was getting the opportunity to get to know such cool people, like Jack and (for a time) Kaitlyn, better! Whether it was bonding with Kaitlyn over shared Political Science classes, or watching Jack passionately talk about drumming, I had an amazing time getting to learn about these two. I’m filled with such joy whenever I pass them on campus and get to excitedly greet them and have them return the acknowledgment; I can’t wait to continue developing my friendship with these incredible now-rising-sophomores as they take over at OSU!