College comes along with all types of new challenges, and resilience is important in order to withstand these adversities and bounce back. It is hard to know if you are resilient enough or how to improve it. There are five important aspects of resiliency: social support, self-esteem, coping skills, communication skills, and emotional regulation.
Social Support
Humans are social creatures and often need a community to help them through hardship. A person’s supportive social systems fosters their resilience in times of crisis. A support system can include immediate or extended family, community, friends, and organizations. It can be hard to find your niche especially in a place as big as OSU. But getting involved with Student Organization can help you find a support system and a sense of community.
Self-esteem
A positive sense of self and confidence in your own abilities can help with resiliency. Remember to be kind to yourself; if you would not say it to your best friend do not say it to yourself. We will touch more on self-talk a maintaining a growth mindset next week.
Coping skills
Having problem solving skills and coping skills can help empower a person to work through the challenges they face. Using positive coping skills can help bolster resilience more than nonproductive coping skills. Here are some examples of positive coping skills:
- Exercising
- Writing/drawing
- Being with others
- Watching a comfort show or movie
- Making a to-do list or setting goals
- Asking for support
Communication skills
Being able to communicate clearly and effectively helps people seek and receive support. People who are able to show empathy toward and inspire confidence and trust in others tend to be more resilient. Here are some tips to improve your communication skills
- Actively listening (and do not just wait for your turn to speak)
- Be clear and concise
- Consider nonverbal communication
- Be mindful of tone
Emotional regulation
Certain emotions and feelings can be overwhelming at times. The ability to manage these overwhelming emotions, or find assistance to work through them, helps to maintain focus when overcoming a challenge. Here are some tips to help with emotional regulation:
- Identify and reduce triggers
- Take a breath. Slow down the moments between the trigger and the response.
- Make a choice about how to respond
- Notice and name what you are feeling
- Accept the emotion
Here is more material on resilience:
- The Office of Human Resources – Build Resiliency
- The Student Wellness Center – Mental Health and Resiliency
- The College of Nursing – Build your resilience for optimal well-being
- Health and Wellness – Everyday Health: Building Resilience and Resources Together
By: Skylar Millard