The holidays are a time of joy spent with our family and friends. But, for individuals living with memory loss and their caregivers, this can also be a time of added stress and confusion. If you are celebrating the holidays this year with a loved one living with Alzheimer’s Disease or dementia, be sure to take these steps to keep the holiday fun going all season long.

Familiarize the Family
Before your family or friends come over to visit, be sure to let them know what to expect. Changes caused by dementia can sometimes be a shock to those who haven’t interacted with your loved one for some time. Encourage visitors to be patient and let the person finish their thoughts without interrupting. Warn them not to get angry or upset if their loved one tends to repeat themselves, ask the same questions, or call them by the wrong name. It is generally best to let family and friends know what to expect before they arrive, through a text message, phone call, or email. The Alzheimer’s Association has a great example letter if you need help getting started.
Take Care of the Caregiver
Holidays can put additional stress on caregivers as well. Ask about ways that you can help while you are in town visiting or, if you are the caregiver, don’t hesitate to assign duties to others to help with care! Overall, caregivers should try not to juggle too much and prioritize which traditions are most important to maintain and reasonable in doing. This can help alleviate the stress of “too much to do.”
Adjust Expectations
Holiday traditions are important for individuals living with dementia, as they can bring back memories of the past. However, we want to ensure that following these traditions does not put too much stress on your loved one and their caregiver. When planning holiday festivities, it’s best to try and stick to your loved one’s routine as closely as possible – this may mean adjustments for some holiday activities. Crowds and strange places may make a person with dementia feel nervous or confused. Activities may need to happen earlier in the day, as some with dementia may get more agitated in the evening. Be realistic about what your family can and can’t do this holiday season.
Adjust gift giving
Finding a gift for your loved one to enjoy may feel a little more difficult – the Alzheimer’s Association has a great list of gifts to give a loved one with dementia. Use your loved one’s interests and abilities to help them select/make gifts for others as well! My grandma always gave her grandchildren a Christmas ornament each year. When she started to get in the later stages of dementia, she enjoyed coloring – so she colored us each an ornament to put on our trees (a prized ornament still on my tree each year!)
Please comment below with other ideas you have to celebrate the season with ALL our loved ones!
Written by: Jessica Lowe, Extension Educator, Family and Consumer Sciences, Ohio State University Extension, Pickaway County, lowe.495@osu.edu.
Reviewed by: Aaron Fowler, Extension Educator, Family and Consumer Sciences, Ohio State University Extension, Greene County, fowler.440@osu.edu.



