Alexis Bass is one of the most dynamic, hilarious, and energetic people I have ever had the pleasure to get to know. I met her in my beginning level French course, which meets in the early hours of the morning, after she made me laugh so much and so hard that I had no other choice than to get to know her. After trips to CVS, the dining halls here at The Ohio State University, and many evenings filled with interesting conversations and plenty of laughter, I have gotten to know more about her – including her history and her dreams.
Alexis was born in Columbus but later moved to Cincinnati when she was five. She then moved back to Columbus to attend school, and two weeks after she had moved her mother moved to Georgia. Her family in Georgia, including her stepdad and her siblings, like to surprise her with spur of the moment trips to visit her at OSU.
I once asked Alexis what her major was. She told me that she had declared a sociology major. I was not familiar with the precise definition of sociology, so I asked her, “What exactly is sociology?” With her utmost concentration focused on pouring glitter into a balloon, she replied, “I don’t know.” (Of course, she does know what the focus of her major is).
At first, this response seemed silly, almost irresponsible, but after further thought it was extremely refreshing. On this massive campus, thousands upon thousands of students have their futures laid down firmly before them. They are studying this subject in order to meet this goal. They spend countless hours poring over textbooks, working endlessly and hard, barely noticing campus life – and, in fact, life in general – whisking by them in a blur of missed experiences and unknown faces split with laughter. They are only fixed on one point and refuse to lift their gaze from that spot. Alexis, it seems, has struck the perfect balance between making the most of Ohio State and life itself. She can’t walk down the many streets on campus or through the endless buildings without knowing someone. She waves, she shouts a hello, she embraces people she has only talked to once. Her warmth and energy are awe-inspiring. I attributed this well-connected web of friends to the fact that she was a third year. However, she transferred from the Newark campus of OSU this year, lending even more emphasis to her outgoing and bright personality. This makes her days busy and her nights long, but it also creates an enormous amount of stories and makes life well lived.
“I actually would love to be an actress. It’s been a dream of mine for years. One day I’d like to audition for Saturday Night Live,” she told me. She would use the name of Alexis Jordynn. She can’t exactly pinpoint the inspiration behind her dream of becoming an accomplished actress. “I think I’ve always been in love with the screen and being on it.”
Life gets serious, especially on a high-speed academic campus such as Ohio State. Stress becomes crushing, almost too heavy to bear. Your life becomes defined by due dates and deadlines. It’s easy to stay in your dorm and not leave your desk. It’s easy to lose your humanity, instead becoming a machine that absorbs information and fills out worksheets and tests. Life, that four letter word that encompasses so much, is far more than this. Alexis reminds me every day to live life hard. She reminds me to love what makes you happy with boundless passion. She reminds me that life is something that we have to live out, but instead something you can change to create your own happiness.
So laugh until your sides hurt. Find people that make you smile. Say what is on your mind, and say it loud.
As Alexis has said to me before, “I’m here for a good time, not a long time.” Make the very most of that good time. You only have a single shot at it.