For the first half of the story, most of the story is told describing Deming’s life in New York and focuses on Deming to try and understand himself and the things happening around him. The beginning of the story tells a segment of Deming’s life with his mom Polly, his mom’s boyfriend Leon, Leon’s sister Vivian, and Vivian’s son Michael. The purpose of the story tells a life experience through the eyes of an Asian American who grows up facing struggles and the repercussions of parenthood problems.
The main issue occurs in Deming’s life when one day his mother disappears from his life and at that point it becomes a struggle for Leon to take care of him. Deming ends up having adoptive parents. His adoptive father, Peter, and mother, Kay, want to push him to go and complete college for a better chance at life. Deming has a history of academic problems and even dropped out of college so doing this is very difficult. Although a majority of youth in foster care aspire to attend college, they are less likely than their peers to enroll in college. (Johnson) Growing up in school, he faced racism for being Chinese and being called names and getting into fights. (Ko, 61) Even over dinners with close friends and family, there would still be racism such as when Jim, Peter’s friend, makes a comment “It’s all Chinese to us dumb-dumbs.” (Ko, 89) He also had a gambling problem as a way to avoid school problems and make money but ended up in trouble with loan sharks. “Asian Americans experience systemic racism in all sectors of society.” (Morey)
Growing up for him can’t be easy as he can get made fun of very easily for the way he looks. “Asian Americans will face these struggles as racism has been normalized against Asians.” (Phan, 2021) There will be many accounts of people showing examples of these problems and especially with being inside a Covid time period, this causes even more issues for Asian Americans. “Since the start of the COVID-19 outbreak, Asian Americans have reported more cases of racism and discrimination. The Asian Pacific Policy and Planning Council found that between March and June, 2,031 Asians have reported cases of discrimination.” Discrimination is something no one should have to face, but Deming’s experience with it affected his life in some ways and prevented him from having a more stable life. “Problems begin to form where he is unable to maintain stable relationships, as well as having worse mental and physical health, and financial issues.” (Johnson) Not having his biological parents when he grew up affected him in different ways as well. Even though he had adoptive parents, he never let go of finding where his mom went in the back of his head. “The schools that youth in foster care attend are often among the lowest performing.” (Johnson) He dealt with identity issues of understanding who he was due to this environment he had to grow up in without his mother. His position as being the child of an immigrant affects the way he experienced things during his life. “Popular and harmful sentiments about immigration and race become enshrined in immigration policy.” (Morey)
Phan, Natalie. “Asian American Students Share Their Cultural Struggles.” KMC Crusade, 12 Jan. 2021, https://kmccrusade.com/6895/news-features/asian-american-students-share-their-cultural-struggles/.
Johnson, Dana. “Impact of Foster Care.” American SPCC, 10 Sept. 2021, https://americanspcc.org/impact-of-foster-care/.
Morey, Brittany. “Systemic Racism Impacts Asian Americans as Well.” Orange County Register, Orange County Register, 22 May 2021, https://www.ocregister.com/2021/05/22/systemic-racism-impacts-asian-americans-as-well/.
Ko, Lisa. TheLeavers. Dialogue Books, 2018.