My first year mentees were Morgan Kovis and Alyssa Sharp. Morgan is from St. Louis, Missouri and is studying neuroscience while Alyssa is from Akron, Ohio and is studying Middle Childhood Education. I learned that Morgan loves being from the Chicago area and loves the city. She found many similarities between where she is from and Columbus, so she said she loves it and that many things in Columbus remind her of where she grew up. Alyssa is from about two hours away, and Akron is a much smaller city than Columbus.
I think my mentees and I have a lot in common. We are all very social and love exploring and trying new foods and seeing new things. For this reason, we had a lot of fun during our Explore Columbus Activities. We are all very involved in clubs that we enjoy and care about and we all enjoy community service and spending time with others. My mentees love bands and concerts, and although we like different kids of music, we love listening to music and just having a good time in general. Some of our differences include what we are studying in college. We are in very different areas of study, but even though we have these different interests, we are similar in the sense that we are in ACES and understand the importance of community, advocacy, and service. Another difference is where we grew up. Morgan in from right outside of Chicago and is very familiar with city life, Alyssa grew up in a suburb of Akron, and I grew up on a farm. We all have very different past experiences, but these differences make us unique. We also have very different extracurricular involvements outside of ACES. Morgan is extremely passionate about mental health, Alyssa loves spending time teaching and interacting with 4th, 5th, and 6th graders, and I am heavily involved in my Business Fraternity. I think we can learn a lot from each other due to these differences because we all have different perspectives because of them.
I saw growth in both of my mentees from the first semester to the second semester. I think Alyssa broke out of her shell between the two semesters. I remember her being quiet and shy when I first met her, but during our second interview, she seemed more talkative and comfortable. Morgan came in excited and ready to explore and find her place, and after talking to her this semester, it seems that she found her passions and got involved in ways to foster those interests.
As a mentor, I think I learned a lot about myself as well as how to have fun and find similarities with those who are very different than myself. I sometimes have preconceived notions and make judgements before I get to know someone, and this experience helped show me that it is easy and fun to be friends with people who are different than myself. I learned a lot from my mentees and I think they learned a lot from me. I tried to be very welcoming and supportive and I hope they felt the same way. I learned the importance of stepping up, reaching out to others, and making plans. Sometimes it’s hard being the friend that seems to always have to make the plans and ask others to hangout first, but this mentor experience showed me that being the person to initiate things is important. I think the mentoring experience helped me with my leadership development because it allowed me to practice my listening skills and showed me the importance of being open-minded. Sometimes it’s easier to stick with what’s comfortable, but meeting two amazing girls that shared both similarities and differences with myself was an incredible experience.
At the beginning of the school year when we first met, I helped my mentees by answering a lot of their questions about Ohio State, involvements, meal plans, and other topics that are foreign to students who are new to college. After they got settled in, I asked them what they did in high school and what they’re interested in and tried to recommend clubs that they might enjoy. I showed them how to search for all of the different student organizations on campus and helped them with any other questions they had. Although I was not able to help them with class work since we were in none of the same classes, I am confident that I helped them in the area of socialization and I hope that they felt that they had me as a friend. We had fun during our Explore Columbus and I felt like I gained two new friends throughout this mentorship experience.
There are a lot of benefits to a mentoring program for both the mentor and mentee. I think for the mentee it reassures them that they have someone to answer their questions and to talk to if they need someone. Having and knowing someone willingly wants to mentor you shows that the mentor is committed to the mentee. The benefit of being a mentor is knowing you have extra responsibility to help someone in whatever capacity you can. As a mentor, having the opportunity to give back after those before you did the same is also important. Knowing you have an important role as a mentor is crucial and acting in accordance is critical so that you can prove you care about the mentee and aren’t just there to check it off the list.